Creating An Abundant Lifestyle
Many people believe that an abundant lifestyle is about having money and everything material. Well if this is what you think, you may be in for a let down. Of course we would all rather be rich and miserable than poor and miserable, but to have wealth and happiness is achievable. When your partner comes home after a day at work, greet him/her at the door and say hello. Ask how his/her day went; keep asking it will become a good habit after 21 days. When your partner leaves for work in the morning, say Goodbye and I love you or Have a good day, and make sure you do it with an abundant heart, remembering you want an abundant lifestyle in the future.
When you ask your partner a question, make eye contact and listen to the answer. When your partner faces a challenge at work during the day, ask how it went when you get home. Remember though that because of our natures, it is likely the male will want to shrink into his cave for an hour or so, before discussing such issues. During your evening meal together, avoid the temptation to watch television or read the paper or mail. Look at your partner and have a conversation.
If you want to make plans that affect how your partner will be spending time, check with him/her first and make sure it is convenient. When you disagree with something your partner says, pay attention to your response. Do you express your opinion without putting him/her down? You can express your opinion assertively rather than aggressively. For example, you can say, "I have another opinion. I think we should wait until spring to have the walls painted," rather than, "That's silly! We should wait until spring." Pay attention to how much of your side of the conversation is asking questions versus making statements. If you tend to be the dominant one, ask more questions. When you ask your partner a question, make eye contact and listen to the answer. Ask open-ended questions to encourage your partner to open up and talk. Open-ended questions begin like this: What was it like when.
Tell me about. What do you think of. Have you become passive with your partner because that is the easiest way to avoid conflict? Over time, this is not a good idea. You will inevitably begin to build up feelings of resentment because you are stifling your feelings, thoughts, and opinions.
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